Inspired by Siva's post. I had wondered if the concept of love at first sight do really exists. But now I think it does, not sure what made me think like that, but yes, the spark really does exist.
The thrill of arranged marriage is purely based on the concept of Love at first sight! The girl and the guy meet for the first time only at the "Ponn paarkal" and may be get about 10 - 15 minutes of time to speak their heart out, but if her heart longs for the guy to call up then what is it other than love at first sight?? Same with the guy. The courtship period, the cream of time the pair can get.
At the end of day, on the wedding date, the guy and the girl would definitely be lovers. So does it really make any much difference if it is an arranged or love marriage?
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Won't say its love at first sight. Its just "like" at first sight and then love blossoms only later in the relationship.
first sight ellam irukatum...matter is will be as said "Till death do us part" :-)
Is it the same sri with whom I was chatting at pizza hut ;)
ha ha. i have following ur blog for quite some time.. edhanum intersting matter a:o? ungalukkum anda luv at first sight vandutha?
what was the need to meet the guy/girl at all? isn't it a compulsion or a desperation?
"Ponnu Paarthal" is definitely not "love at first sight", also because u know a good deal about the other person even before you get to sight them...
@K7 - hmm, not sure..i dont have any experience you see ;)
@Harish - Love nale I will live for the other person till deathnu dhane artham. But yes your point is cent percent valid.
@Farini - hehe very much. why this doubt suddenly??
@Padma - Hehe.. saava pathi ezhudanumna sethu dhan poganumna, yaralayum death a vechu kadai ezhuda mudiyadhu, adhe madridhan love panna dhan love at first sight a pathi kadhai ezhudanumna yaralayum kadai ezhuda mudiyadhu ;).. idu ellam apadiye thana varudhu :P. And thanks for following my blog :-)
@Ram - The need to meet someone is absolutely necessary ram. Yes, love can start may be thru chat, phone calls or mails but for it to sustain for a longer run, the guy and the girl should meet.
If not for physical identification of a person, the chances of the depth of relationship fading away is more. It is not only applicable for Love but is also very much applicable even for friendship.
Yes, we can become the best friends ever over chat.. vera engayum pogave vendam, our own gumbal is an example. Still, the bonding increases when we meet in person.
The need may not arise when the two persons are in contact touch with each other, but even if they are not contact, the relationship should sustain. That is called true love or friendship. The concept of "Out of sight,out of mind" do really exist.
Again, taking our own gumbal example, how many of us do you think are really close to you and how many of them do you think would come all through your life? Oru oru phase la kadaikara friendship, apadiye anda time period mudinjapram poradhu is different, but for love, the person should continue his/her journey all through you life. So if not for the Love to sparkle up, meeting in person is an absolute necessary for it to sustain.
And when it comes to the case of arranged marriage, we dont get to know any details other than what the guy/girl has studied, where he/she is working and his/her family background. But do you think all these are absolute necessary for something called love? Not sure about other places, but only after the horoscopes are exchanged and all match seen, and only after the parents meet each other, the guy and the girl are made to meet each other. They can know about each other only at that time. So it is not any kind of compulsion or despiration, but it is the only occassion where they get to know one another.
aah! sambandhame illaama yedho solli irukka! not sure if my post was not clear or if am failing to see the relation in ur post :O
Na sambandhathoda dhan sonnen, unoda commentku.. unakudhan puriyala :P.. seri ne ena solla vandha??
definitely it does....only problem is, there's always another first sight!....yikes
gal/boy sees boy/gal....spark...chat for sometime....leave the place...thinking abt tht person...tadah....another boy/gal....spark again
I love it :D
doubtu coz someone told me a different thing then :D
jus noticed that ur blog is 2 years old + :d happy birth month to ur bloggu:D
ok...my definition of love at first sight:
girl/boy meets boy/girl for the first time ever without any prior introduction and start loving the other person instantly!
if your definition is even slightly different, we are not talking about the same thing.
according to my definition, "ponnu paarkaradhu" is ruled out from being considered as a "love at first sight" thing, cos u know reasonable information about the other person, including the person's name!(oh my God- that's like the most important thing :P)
Agree with what Ram says, "Ponnu Paarthal" is NOT love at first sight.
When you know reasonable information about the other person, you mentally build an image of the other person based on that.
Depending on whether you like that image or not, you consent to "Ponnu Paarthal".
During "Ponnu Paarthal" if that image of yours matches reasonably with the actual person, you are happy consent to marriage(and decide to fall in love).
Consider 'Love at first sight' - boy meets girl for the first time ever without any prior introduction, falls in love instantly.
This need NOT be lust because some people interpret certain physical attributes to be indicative of certain mental characteristics.
This is flawed because neither is the face an index of the mind nor are eyes the mirror of the soul.
Finally, a successful relationship can be sustained only by love and trust - both being equally important!
Most people give too much importance to love and leave the trust part.
But, most failed relationships are due to lack of trust!
To give a more cynical view, there is little difference between 'a chance accident' and 'an arranged accident'!
In both love and arranged marriage, you are condemned to live loving that, because you said 'yes' at the wrong time!
Hmm nice thought di ..so this gives a whole new definition to our good old arranged marraige :-)
Anyways aen intha thouhgts btw? yaruvathu ponnu parthala ona ;-)erhmmm.. solu sri ;-)
Oru spark la love developana kuda it needs some time to develop and to realise that it was love. Adu varache, the guy and the girl would know each other decently well. Oru second la paarthu next second la propose pandradhu ellam not at all practical.
Sri- that's not what my definition says. The love is instantaneous. but u wont necessarily propose until it is considered decent enough time :P
love at first sight definition-a onakku aethaa maadhiri maathikka koodaadhu :P
Ram, unaku idula irukara experience enaku illa ;) Na edho parthadha vechu ezhudaren.. may be ne practicala experience pani solriyo enamo.
ha ha.. che nallada pesindu erukkum podu en sava pati pesara:X..
aana according to the trend i sww people love abt more when fall ?!!! in luv;).. adhan kettan.. anyway the comments are lengthier than ur blog:D..
@naren
enda kanna ne maha vettiya:D..
ondRaa...reNdaa... :P
hehe.. enaku anda list la therinjadhu ore oru aalu dhan.. may be two.. hehe mathavanga ellam yaaru??
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