A beautiful story on relationships. Being amidst a bunch of friends of whom 90% are committed, and the status of marriage of few close relatives has made a major impact on my perception on relationships. Having lost faith in the institution called marriage and worst the arrange marriage, has made me a supporter of Love marriage (if at all u need to get married).
There should be no compromise on Love, relationship and life. Everyone in this world are selfish and there is absolutely no wrong in being so, and more so when it comes to special relationships. After all All's fair in love and war. So for heaven sake, please don’t get married to someone whom u don’t love, with whom u feel u can't lead a proper married life. Falling into the trap of marriage with someone whom u think is not ur choice, jus for the sake of compulsion of ur parents and society. Its crap to fall in love with someone and get married to someone else. Its not only that you are cheating urself, but brutally hurting the other person too. When u are sure u can't share ur love with ur partner, then why get married and why break a family? Be selfish, it’s better to sound bitter to ur parents, friends and family in saying NO rather to jus nod ur head and then break a relationship and shatter a family. Preferably stay single than to marry and still maintain ur celibacy. (Sorry if that was too rude!)
Now regarding the movie,yes, what Dev and Maya did was wrong, breach of sincerity towards their relationship & family.. but it needs some broad mindedness to accept it. (Movies are inspired by real life. Everyone of us know, this kind of events does exist in real day to day life, but our cowardness and ego prevents us from accepting it. It’s a fear of losing our respect in appreciating this film). If u want something, you need to sacrifice another. I appreciate the move made by both Rishi and Rhea. Once the fidelity is lost, there is no point in staying together and for relationship; jus marriage can’t bring that bond. Just three knots cannot bring the feel of life, all they need is the chemistry. Amitabh rocks in his last scene. KANK : Five stunning actors. Three and a half hour movie. One picture perfect director and ofcourse a simple message: Marry only if you're in love!
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Agree that there is no point in marrying someone you don't love, with someone whom you feel you cannot lead a married life. But blaming arranged marriage for this is not correct, its finally your decision, not arranged marriage's.
K7, finally decision is our choice, agreed. But when u interact with someone viewing ur future relationship in mind, do u think you can talk with them freely or get to know fully about them?
Ponnu paka varachevo, illati munadiyo oru fone la pesi, webcam la chat pani mudivu edukara vishyam illa vazhkai. Ne pakara paiyano ponno ne kalyanam panikaporomnudra enathula paatha adu different, adhe ne sadarnama pazhagi, avala pathi fulla purinjundu, apo falling in love with them is different.
agreed,agreed..but,unakoru vishyam theriyuma Sri,arranged marriagesla love varathukku chances jasthi..;)
anyways,ediliyume love illam onume panna mudiyadu..oru chinna vishyam pidikaati enna nooru nalla vishayam inum irukum..u can't go searching for the perfect 'love'..it's within u..
but,nammala madiri konjam conservative societyla free love inum varla pa..kalyanam pannalamnu mudivu panradukku munnala nee solra madiri pesardu nalladudan aana aduku paretns,esp those of mapillais othuka matanga..veen banda kamipaanga..sonda anubhavam pa..:O
Absolutely true MJ. Nambala madri konjam conservative societyla parents othuka maata. Adu dhan sonen selfisha irukanumnu ;) Anyways, what if we can find a guy of same caste n sect?? Better lookout for such a guy whom parents can accept.
But noothula oru vaarthai. Inda galathu pasangaluku vetti bandha bayangara jaasthi. :P Ava parents pathi na eduvum solala. They might accept, but pasanga pandra arpatam dhan over.
And oru unmai solanumna, setting few standards and looking for love is absurd nu theriyum. Again, to gain something u need to lose something. Parent’s kaga konjam adjustments idhealam. Find such a guy, accepting whom shouldn't be a problem for parents and won’t put them into embarrassing situation.
Completely agree with u sri except on this -
"If u want something, you need to sacrifice another"
I would rephrase it as
If you want something more valuable, you need to sacrifice something less valuable!
sometimes it does happen the other way round too,naren..for getting something u can't yet say u like,u would have to scarifice something u really like..!!!u can never predict life..that's how it is..!!
Utter bullshit of a movie- 3.5 hours of pain- had to gather all my courage and wits (read that as cracking jokes on the movie with friends) to stay till the end. What will be more likely to happen in India- both of them will forgive their partners and move on in life....being a counsellor to someone at office who is having such thoughts (after 2 teenage kids) of moving out with her BF who is 6 years younger to her, I know how tough it is to be in this conflicting state of an affair and a failed marriage. A marriage which was foisted upon my parents and society to give legal consent to a contract between TWO families. Read that clear, Legal contract between two families, not a bond of love and affection . Isnt that true in most cases of forced acceptance of something you never really wanted. Probably the biggest lie is told when you promise in front of "Agni", that you will love your wife, keep her happy throughout your life no matter what cometh. This is perhaps the most expensive LIE told in a lifetime also, in front of all the propitiated GOD and in front of so many supporters and wellwishers who are more there for the good food and the opportunity to show off their latest clothes and jewels and gossip on every other relative who is living happily with his/her life.
To me, we as a society always love to RG another. There is no going forward in life, its about forcing oneself to accept what every other society member is doing for the common good. At the helm of affairs is the loose tongue wabbling housewife aunties group. Total losers that they are since getting married to a holy cow , they want to make it their life's prime motive to ensure that every other girl also gets to lead a life like them. NO LOVE, No happiness, but its all about compromise in life, compromise for their own good to keep their tongues happy. People who rebel against them are bound to face the gossip from all over the place, get boycotted from all family functions (oh I wanted to attend all these functions in the first place) and the social trauma to parents who , without their bad influence, would actually put their kid's happiness above all else. BUT they have to be restricted by society.....
What KANK showed was an affluent, NRI family where such a thing happens. NDTV followed it up with a We, the People episode, where you had Mumbai Page 3 millionaires saying "Ooh this movie was so nice, it influenced me to switch as well...I walked out of my husband,so,so".. Dudes, wake up to reality. This is the ultra posh section of Indian society, wont even be 0.1% and in that rich society, everything is accepted. One can sleep with every other person to get ahead in life and have and enjoy all the hedonistic pleasures in life. Look who is speaking of commitment , trust and LOVE...the P3Ps...like Shobha De.
I need to post more on this as a follow up, but later......hand hurts now :)
:-)Ramji guess u r not angry against the film but against the fact stated in the film.
Sri, nee aen innum kalyanam panikala nu ipo puriyarthu ;) :P
So, as per your statement - the love which comes by talking in fone or chatting in web is more stronger than that which occurs due a marriage having been arranged ?? The meaning of the word "Love" is such a complex one that every idividual's definition of it varies... and you can never find a perfect match which u dream of and the intelligent people try to love what they have got, i.e. love the psotives of what they got.
And arrange marriages are more secure in one way.. if something does happen in the wrong way, nobody will be blaming you rather those who were responsible for the marriage. Aaana, when you are into ur-so-called love marriage, even for small issues it will be you who will be flamed on all sides and sometime feel u made a bad decision.
Life is not all about getting what we love for. Most times, we have to love what we are offered with :)
Welcome back Rajesh.
@Parth i dont understand ur concept here. What is the point in blaming others? Blame others or blame ourselves, the damage is ours. U can comfortable blame ur parents for having selected a bad partner for you, but can u pass over the pain and sufferring to them?
Ultimately the sufferer is the concerned person alone. Coming by your way what i mean to say here is, atleast lets not hurt parents for having chosen a wrong partner.. whatever pain and talks we undergo.. let it go only with us and not the elders. Atleast the society wont blame them.
good one Sri :)
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